5 reasons a first date can go wrong

Let's put ourselves in a situation: you meet someone (through Tinder, through friends, by pure chance in the supermarket if that is still happening) and you meet for dinner. The first date, a meeting full of possibilities, expectations and that could be the beginning of something with great potential. Yes, you should go calmly and without anticipating the facts but you have a good feeling ... it will turn out well.

And against all odds, even though you thought everything had turned out perfect, it turns out that the first date has only been on the date because there will be no second or third or anything. Why? During dinner everything seemed to be going well, you got to know each other a bit, you laughed at your jokes, you thought there was chemistry but there was never a second meeting.


You may believe that the fault is yours (it happens often) but sometimes even if we do everything well, the date does not end as we wanted. It is normal and there is an explanation, so affirms the psychologist Guy Winch in Psychology Today. And it turns out that there are 5 reasons why a first date does not usually go well. It is not the fault of anyone in particular, you are simply not looking for the same or there are external factors that we do not know and that have a lot of weight when making the decision and are the following:

You look for different things

Sometimes one of the parties is just looking for sex and the other a serious relationship (or at least trying) . So since your date has realized this and does not want to commit to anything, they decide to leave things as they are and not ask for a second date. It can be a bit annoying (or a lot depends on each one) but it is also the best decision. Maybe in the future ...

As friends

Who has not happened? The cuckold dating sites was perfect, you had a good time and although you thought it could go further, the truth is that one very important thing was missing: chemistry. You have connected yes but the key piece is missing and nobody can avoid it and that is why there is no second date. Either it is there or it is not, it cannot be taken out of anywhere, and even if you think you don't need it, you may have found that person, not a partner, but a friend for life, And who knows, the chemistry may arise later.

You look like someone from his past

The typical thing according to Winch is that you remind them of a relative and that makes all the potential that there could disappear completely. It's not your fault or your date's fault, but there are certain things that put out any flame and that you look like his uncle for example is one of them. You may look like their ex (a bad sign) or there is some aspect of your life that reminds them of him so a second date is the last thing they are thinking about.

They haven't turned the page

We all have. We just ended a relationship and we want to forget about that person so we decided to open our Tinder profile to meet new people and find the love of our life who makes us forget about lovesickness. The problem is that we go to the appointment and even though everything is going well we are unable to stop thinking about who broke our hearts. If you are the one in that situation, you know that once you leave the restaurant you will not ask for a second date. But if she is the one who is going through that, it is very likely that you do not know it and that you do not understand what happened. Well, this is the problem, maybe in a few months you will meet again and something will come up, but for now nothing. You may also be interested in best cuckold sites for couples

You're too good

It is likely that you have never felt superior to others, you are you and there are many incredible people in the world and surely better than you. However, sometimes our achievements or our lifestyle can be very different from that of the person with whom we have the first date and they can feel overwhelmed. You have gotten the promotion you wanted so much, you take care of yourself, you play sports, you care about the environment and you have your life organized while the other person is still trying to decide what to do with theirs and ends up feeling bad because they see you as being above of its possibilities. You can't help being who you are and neither is the other person, so that's the first and last date.

So the next time you meet someone and they don't turn out the way you expected, don't blame yourself or overthink what you could do better. Most likely it had something to do with these five reasons and they are not the responsibility of either of them.